So, we all had thoughts of what parenting would be like before we were parents, right?”I would never…” “How could they…” “Why don’t they just…” I’ve said and heard it time and time again. Before becoming a parent, I honestly did not have a lot of experience being around children. I grew up an only child. Since my family was military, I did not get to grow up around my younger cousins, so I only knew children my own age from school. I had no idea the amount of work that parenting could take, or why parents make the decisions they do. Children being loud in supermarkets? Where are the parents? Why is that child on a leash?!? That is barbaric! A mother looking for her toddler at the grocery store? Insanity!
After becoming a parent, I suddenly came to the realization that I knew absolutely nothing about parenting beforehand. Who was I to judge? I went home crying the first day I had my daughter out of sheer stress and confusion. I had no idea what to do with this beautiful creature that I was now completely responsible for. ”You’ll understand the cries” they said “You’ll have mother’s intuition” they said. I waited for this to kick in over a week. I have to admit, even a week into parenting I still knew absolutely nothing.
Before I was able to figure everything out completely, we had a second daughter. They are 15 months apart, so talk about life happening fast. When I was just getting used to having to carry one daughter everywhere with me, I suddenly had two. For those that are pre-parents or do not have experience with children, think of having two little puppies with you everywhere you go. They want to run free in opposite directions, they want to play you the song of their people at the top of their lungs in the quietest of places, they simply do NOT have the time to wait for mom or be patient. I can’t think of a better example for this situation other than doctor’s appointments. Whether the appointments are for them or for me, they can be a huge hassle.
Found a great deal on a double stroller. Bought the double stroller and realized it’s like trying to push a tank. The clinic here has a revolving door. In no way, shape, or form would I be able to fit that double stroller into the door. It would look like a cartoon with me chasing behind the stroller in a constantly revolving door.
Finally, and I promise I’m getting to my ultimate point as stated in the title, we went yard-sale shopping on Saturday. Brace yourselves. I bought…a child’s leash. That’s right, I said it. I bought a leash, for my child. Perhaps having children DOES make one insane…perhaps that is my reasoning behind it…or perhaps it was a “please save my sanity” type of purchase. I have yet to decide. All the years I spent saying I would NEVER put my child on a leash…suddenly *POOF* my child is on a leash. How could I?
Some of you are shaking your heads right now. I can just see it. I shook my own head a couple times. I still have to truly get used to the idea, but in all honesty, I am completely happy with my purchase. I realize having a child on a leash does not make them a “dog”, having a child on a leash just means you are keeping your children close. With one infant in a stroller, and the other running wild, it was desperately needed for public outings. My two year old is just starting that “selective hearing” phase. Having a child who selectively chooses NOT to hear their name being called by the crazy woman with the frazzled hair some refer to as “mom” makes my life pretty hectic, but the leash helps me have a little inner peace in the otherwise chaotic days of motherhood. Knowing my babies are safe are the top of my list. Worrying about what others are thinking about it, have now been moved to the bottom.
A moms gotta do, what a moms gotta do!
Have you ever had any pre-parenting ideas that changed quickly after having children? I’d love to hear them!